This article goes out to all the girls who, when venture to try out the western attire get showered with comments such as, “She’s a disgrace to being a Pakistani”, or “Sharam nahin Atey larkee ko!!!” etc. Before I go on with my trademark pessimistic tone, I’d like to add in that I don’t, at all, think that all men think and act so; thus this article is aimed at the lot that do.
It’s funny, the society in general, and our mindsets on a higher note. Whereas we think it perfectly normal for the ‘guys’ to wear any and everything, eyebrows are raised at ‘girls’ if they experiment with a ‘not-so-typical’ cut or style. Most of the girls in our University wear our cultural dress 24/7/365, whereas the guys’ ‘cultural adoration’ is mostly seen only on Fridays. Yet most of the guys pride themselves at being more cultural.
There’s a constant conflict about culture and religion, and most of us seem to confuse ourselves with it. True, religion has placed stricter rules with reference to clothing on women, but it has also made it crystal clear that no one is to interfere with another’s personal life. So if for example a girl is wearing a daring outfit, it’s for her and her only to decide whether she wants to take the road to hell or heaven.
Another point in relation with religion is a must mention. I’ve witnessed fingers being pointed at girls for not covering their heads or wearing a sleeveless for the simple reason that it’s not allowed in Islam. The accusation, though unasked for, is correct, but why don’t we apply the same theory to guys when they turn up wearing their ever so skimpy shorts? Correct me if I’m wrong, but Islam also says that men need to cover themselves from the navel onwards. ( till their knees)
I don’t consider girls any better than guys; I’m not a feminist, just a plain old ‘humanist’. The point of this article was simply to make people think about why we have separate codes (dress codes and otherwise) for both the men and women, why women need to work harder to maintain a good reputation, why people measure a woman’s respectability with her attire, and why men have the liberty to dress up the way they want to whether they are following religion or not ( without being questioned and condemned), and women don’t.